QUESTION: I often find myself expecting my partner to know what I want. You state that you have to ask clearly for what you want, but what if you don’t know what you want?
MONICA: The first step in knowing what you want is to find your truth, your authenticity. If you don’t know what you want, chances are you aren’t listening to what your soul is telling you. For many of us, whether it wasn’t acceptable or we grew up in a domineering family or whatever the circumstances are, we tend to drown out our voice and make other people’s voices more important. To find your truth, start to pay attention and allow yourself to hear what is you’re really craving. It comes in a whisper and it’s so soft you almost don’t even hear it. But as you become more and more familiar with your own inner voice, you will start to pay more attention to and honor what it is that you feel. From there you can speak it and work towards on acting on it.
If you don’t know what you want it’s a signal to take some time, whether you’re in a relationship or not, to look within and spend time with you. Growing yourself, connecting to the Creator, connecting to your Source, connecting to your perfected self, and asking: “what are my gifts,” “what is my purpose,” “what are my true desires” and then continuing to connect back to that.